Time Out Los Angeles – Best of Dominatrix Professionals

Time Out Los Angeles – Best of Dominatrix Professionals

http://www.timeout.com/los-angeles/sex-and-dating/best-dominatrix-professionals-in-la

Full Q&A with Isabella Sinclaire

Name: Isabella Sinclaire

Age: 44

How long have you been a Pro-Domme? Since 1993

How did you get into the industry?  I randomly met a girl dressed in fetish clothes at a night club in NYC and we became friends.  She invited me into a session of hers as a voyeur and I realized I wasn’t interested in just watching! The rest is history.

What is your specialty as a dominatrix? Intuition, imagination and understanding the psychology of the dynamic. Use the tools, equipment and bondage is the easy stuff and I’m great at all of that.   I love nice equipment so my dungeon is fully equipped with the best of everything for most BDSM play.

Do you have a favorite device/toy/machine/etc? And why is it your favorite? Singletail for my masochists and electric play for my more sensual and sensory oriented play partners.

What is your favorite safe word? My play partners don’t need one.  I’m more in tune with what they are feeling than they are most of the time.

Who are your typical clients? Nothing is typical in this industry.  I have the extremely wealthy to the average Joe and I enjoy them both.  When a client is in my dungeon, it really doesn’t matter to me what they do or who they are in the real world.   All of that is left at the door and they get to become something they yearn for and crave, whether it’s to be a masochist, submissive, slave, prisoner, patient, etc.  But the common thread is the need to be able to escape the normal day to day.  Some people got to spa’s, amusement parks or the movies.  Others go to dungeons.

Who are your most unusual clients?  It is rare that I see women.  Obviously there are submissive women in the world but I think it’s easier for them to find someone to allow them to act out those desires without judgment.  And women don’t typically have the discretionary income that men do.  I enjoy playing with women though, it’s a completely different energy than playing with men.

Are you friends with any of your clients? Yes, I have had some clients since I began over 20 years ago and although we still maintain the undertone of a domme/sub dynamic, I still consider them my friends.  Some of them are my most trusted friends.  But if most people saw us interacting in public, they wouldn’t think anything was unusual about our friendship.

What is your personal fetish? I don’t have a fetish if you are referring to the purist form of the word.  I don’t need one particular thing to excite me. But in my personal life, I love lips.  Full or pouty lips.  They are a huge turn on!

What is a turn-off for you? Body odor and smoking.  My sense of smell is my strongest sense.  Other than that, it’s entitlement.  It’s very unsexy!

Do you find sexual pleasure in the roll of dominatrix? There is something sexually charged about a DS exchange but I do not feel the urge to have sex with my slaves or clients.  To me, it is almost as if I don’t think they deserve it.  I get more pleasure in denying them the opportunity to please me.  I prefer my play partners to leave thinking they simply are not worthy of me.  I am a rare force of nature.  And they are lucky to be given the attention they get.

What’s the best or most extravagant gift you’ve received from a sub? One of my most loyal and thoughtful submissives just bought me a new car.  He offered me any car I wanted and I chose one that fits my personal life instead of one that you would image a famous dominatrix driving.  It’s a minivan.  It breaks all stereotypes and is perfect.

Any etiquette tips for new clients?  Be sincere with your needs and wants. Follow through with your appointments. And shower before you come.

What is the most memorable or outrageous request from a client?  I refused to do a whipping session with a masochist who brought in a whip with barbs on the ends.  It would have been a bloodbath and I wasn’t interested in entertaining his need to be mutilated.  I’m sure he got it somewhere but it wasn’t going to be from me.

What question do you get asked more than anything else? “Are you really a dominatrix?  You seem to nice.”  And that is because I have the perfect balance of dark and light in my life.  Those who have seen me play or have been on the receiving end know that I can be extremely nice yet brutal in the same stroke.  I like to keep people on their toes.

Is there anything you would like to add that we didn’t ask?  I think novices tend to avoid sessions with me because they think I am too intense or too experienced.  This is flattering but also unfortunate because I love to play with new people.  I love to show them my world and have it be a safe and enjoyable situation.  More times than not, they will see a series of other less experienced Dommes only to come to me and realize I am not that scary. I’m not 10 ft tall with 9” daggers for claws.  And I have a way of comforting and relaxing new people so they truly find the subspace they have only read about.  It’s a talent!

Thank you for the opportunity to be included in your magazine.  I’ve enjoyed the experience.   Please let me know if I can assist you in the future!

Sincerely,

Isabella Sinclaire